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They just haven’t tapped into their greatness yet You ever have those moments when you’re just mad at the world? Not for any particular reason but you’re just in a mood (ladies you may feel me on this one) . Then the minor things that irritate you seem so much bigger….followed by anyone who even looked at you funny that day….then you start going through The Sh*t List. This is ANYONE who caused you harm, hurt you or mistreated you in ANY way. There maybe images in your head of all of these people. You may even visualise giving them
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Deadheading

My mum and I were having a chat about life and the universe etc and yet again it was highlighted that we have completely different perspectives. For example, certain life choices I have made along the way may seem erratic or impulsive to others, but for me it is all about the experience, which is driven by my profound curiosity of the unknown. One of the things we talked about was the loved ones that have come and gone in my life. As we started to name them I noticed the list was longer than I thought…It made me question
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The donkey and the carrot

Have you ever felt inches away from reaching a goal yet there is always something getting in the way? I am always investigating ways to overcome obstacles, so when I noticed this pattern in myself and couldn’t seem to shift it, I would moan about life’s tests. How “everything is so HARD!” and that the things I want in life are just too unrealistic…which is what led me to think of the donkey and the carrot. The concept that what you want is dangling in front of you but you can never quite reach it, even though you are moving
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Mind Training

DID YOU KNOW THAT YOU HAVE THE POWER TO DO AND HAVE ANYTHING YOU WANTED? It really all comes down to the power of the mind and how well you train it, like any muscle in the body. For those of you who go to the gym, you may relate to this: initially when you think about joining up you may come up with a bunch of reasons (excuses) why you cant start at that time. Then eventually you give in and that first time may be a bit sluggish- but by the end of the first session you are
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Self-esteem Vs Confidence

Despite my years in studying and working in psychology, I only recently did some delving into this subject. My intrigue was sparked by a conversation with a fellow therapist as we sought to understand the difference between self-esteem and confidence. We had decided between us, that it is possible to be confident in certain areas of your life, yet generally lack self-esteem. I decided to do more research and it turns out that according to Katty Kay(see ref)  and other psychologists, we were basically right. For those that might not get a chance to read the paper (its fine, I
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“WAX ON WAX OFF”- GOING WITH THE FLOW

A dear friend of mine managed to break 2 of her fingers (poor girl). To make matters worse it was the fingers on her dominant hand, so needless to say things have been a bit tricky. Particularly when attempting her favourite hobby: cleaning. Whenever I have injured myself, one of the first things I notice is how much I use that part of my body, followed by profound gratitude for the good times when it was in full working order. But the…se experiences have also given me an incentive to use my left side more. So I have been swapping
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“PROCRASTINATORS!….LET US UNITE TOMORROW”-

The Fruits of procrastination… So the other day I was furiously cleaning my cooker, fully aware that I had my admin to do. I had already been through the process of why I was putting this task off and just because I was actively cleaning didn’t mean I was being productive: the admin is still going to be there when I have finished. Then I started to think that maybe procrastination isn’t such a bad thing as I was still DOING something (unless you are stationary whilst procrastinating- that’s different). For some of you it might not be cleaning, it
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On being “Positively Selfish” –(Sarah Cookie Merrifield)

I’ve noticed that ‘selfishness’ gets a lot of bad press so I am aiming to shed some new light on the subject. So. Immediately when we hear the word ‘selfishness’ we associated it with mean , ‘Scrooge’ like people who ONLY think of their needs, usually resulting in others losing out. However there are other versions of selfishness that is less stigmatised and also integral for those who are on the journey to being the …best they can be. A common version is that you HAVE to be selfish in order to achieve your dreams and ambitons. You HAVE to
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PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE WORTH LEARNING

Being raised as an only child, I suffer with impatience. I say ‘suffer’ because sometimes when my impatience has sabotaged my ‘good’, it felt like something outside of myself was responsible. However when I did some research (on myself) I realised that yes, being an only child can contribute however I looked at HOW impatience contributed to ruining aspects of my life. This is what I came up with: Panic: Feeling out of control if certain …things weren’t done in a specific amount of time. Anger/Frustration: driving behind slow people, always being in a rush to get somewhere-even if I
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Focusing on your OWN energy

I have been thinking a about the importance of building the core strength, faith and positive energy, especially when it comes to interactions with others. In the past, I often found my moods changing to match my surroundings, particularly if it is negative. This was explored in more depth when I did a 2 week intensive drama class, quite some time back… It was the last day of the course. Everyone had bonded apart from one lady. I thought out of all our classmates she would warm to me as I was friendly AND shared Italian heritage! But alas, no.
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